{"id":629,"date":"2013-04-27T12:43:15","date_gmt":"2013-04-27T11:43:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/?p=629"},"modified":"2013-04-27T12:43:15","modified_gmt":"2013-04-27T11:43:15","slug":"how-to-lose-your-nanny-in-10-days","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-lose-your-nanny-in-10-days\/","title":{"rendered":"How to lose your nanny in 10 days"},"content":{"rendered":"
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1. Don\u2019t sort the paperwork<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/strong>Ideally you should have a contract in place before your nanny starts, but if you don\u2019t then make signing one a top priority. Aside from being a legal obligation on your part, it\u2019s a good idea to have the arrangement clarified in writing. You\u2019ll also need her bank details and her National Insurance number, as well as her P45 from her previous job, to pay her correctly.<\/span><\/p>\n

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2. Don\u2019t say thank you<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s nice to say thank you to your nanny at the end of every day, but it\u2019s absolutely vital if she goes out of her way to do something, whether you\u2019ve asked her to or not. You might be paying her but a little gratitude goes a long way.<\/p>\n

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3. Go back on your word<\/strong><\/p>\n

The relationship between a nanny and employer is based on mutual trust and respect. You trust her to care for your children and she trusts you to keep your end of the bargain. If you agree to something, be it going to a specific playgroup or that she can leave half an hour early one day, don’t suddenly turn around and say you’ve changed your mind and it’s no longer possible.<\/p>\n

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4. Tell her she can\u2019t sit on your chair<\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s understandable that even though you\u2019ve let someone into your home you\u2019ll still want to keep a bit of privacy, but do remember that it\u2019s your nanny\u2019s place of work where she will spend a great deal of time, and it\u2019s vital that she feel comfortable. Dictating where she can and can\u2019t sit is petty, and slights like that won\u2019t make for an easy working relationship.<\/p>\n

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5. Be late without notice<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emergencies happen, that\u2019s one of the reason why a nanny is such a great form of childcare, but it absolutely doesn\u2019t excuse lateness with no warning. If your nanny finishes at 6, you haven\u2019t left the office at 5.30 and you know it takes you 45 minutes to get home, you\u2019re already late. Take a moment out of whatever you\u2019re dealing with to call your nanny and apologise. Remember she may have plans for the evening too so she may not be thrilled with the news.<\/p>\n

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6. Don\u2019t top up the kitty or reimburse her for expenses<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you ask your nanny to pick up essentials, such as nappies or bread, or expect her to take your children to activities then it\u2019s expected that you pay for it. It\u2019s courteous to provide a kitty for your nanny so she doesn\u2019t have to fund day to day expenditure out of her own pocket, but if this is the arrangement you have make sure you pay her back promptly.<\/p>\n

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7. Leave a critical note, but don\u2019t suggest improvements<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nannies don\u2019t have mind-reading superpowers (for people over the age of 3, that is) so any time you need to tell your nanny you\u2019d rather she did something a different way, tell her how you\u2019d like it done. Also make sure you give any constructive criticism face to face \u2013 it can be really demoralising when someone is nice to your face and then an hour later you discover they weren\u2019t happy at all.<\/p>\n

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8. Ask her to clean your bathroom<\/strong><\/p>\n

Most nannies will happily take care of nursery duties \u2013 that is chores related directly to the children such as cleaning up after meals, doing their laundry and hovering their bedrooms and playroom. Although some nannies will be happy to take on additional housekeeping duties, cleaning your bathroom is a step too far. Remember the top priority for a nanny is always the children.<\/p>\n

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9. Take a day off to follow her around<\/strong><\/p>\n

You probably don\u2019t work too well with your boss breathing down your neck and your nanny is no exception. It\u2019s difficult to interact naturally with children, sing, dance and be silly, if you know someone else is judging your every move. Added to that, children always behave differently when their parents are around, so any judgements you make are likely to be based on unsound evidence.<\/p>\n

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10. Don\u2019t pay her<\/strong><\/p>\n

As much as your nanny probably loves her job, as a professional she does expect to be paid. Non-payment is a breach of contract, and your nanny would be perfectly justified in leaving immediately.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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