{"id":2077,"date":"2017-05-11T17:09:52","date_gmt":"2017-05-11T16:09:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/?p=2077"},"modified":"2017-05-11T17:09:52","modified_gmt":"2017-05-11T16:09:52","slug":"how-to-deal-with-sibling-rivalry","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-sibling-rivalry\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal with Sibling Rivalry"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1-1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-large wp-image-2078\" title=\"sibling rivalry\" src=\"http:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1-1024x682.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"682\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/05\/sibling-rivalry-1.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 709px) 85vw, (max-width: 909px) 67vw, (max-width: 1362px) 62vw, 840px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Even if they get along 90% of the time, there will always be moments when siblings don\u2019t see eye to eye. Personalities can clash and arguments can begin over a variety of things from who has the most attention, playing with certain toys, playing with friends, and even the clothes they\u2019re wearing.<\/p>\n<p>The truth of the matter is that sibling rivalry is, and always will be common place, which is why we\u2019ve put together some top tips to help you keep things running smoothly.<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Distraction<\/strong> \u2013 Distraction can be a great solution for sibling rivalry and works particularly well when the children are young. It\u2019s time to pull out your best activities, games or crafts to distract the children from their dispute and re-focus their energy into something more positive and creative. You can give them separate activities if you must, but working together will help them to resolve their issues whilst bonding.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Getting to the root of the issue <\/strong>\u2013 Not all sibling rivalry is normal and harmless. If left unchecked it can lead to more serious long-term issues, even violence. You might find that children who share a room fight more than those who don\u2019t, because children, just like adults need time to themselves to think and grow as individuals and this can be hard to achieve when sharing a bedroom. Whilst difficult to resolve, especially if space is an issue, it\u2019s not impossible.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Praise plays an important part in resolving sibling rivalry. The more you praise the children when they behave well together, the more their behaviour will improve. You will be providing each child with equal amounts of praise and attention and they will learn to recognise and repeat the behaviour that is expected of them.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Hobbies and personal interests should also be taken into consideration. Encourage each child to support the other\u2019s hobbies and interests. This could be as simple as going to watch them play a sport, perform in a play or dance etc.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Bonding activities\/techniques \u2013 <\/strong>Bonding activities can be an excellent way to bring feuding siblings together by giving them a joint goal to accomplish. Asking them to put aside their differences and work together can achieve wonders and they\u2019ll learn more about each other and how they operate along the way.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">For times when disagreements are at their worst, try to get your children to focus on the positive. Ask them to write or say positive things about each other. What do they like most about each other? This type of exercise usually leads to laughter and stronger friendship whilst learning to celebrate each other\u2019s differences.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Monitor your behaviour \u2013 <\/strong>Are you comparing one child to the other? Are you taking the side of one child over the other? Are you explaining and helping them to understand what types of behaviour are and aren\u2019t acceptable?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">Children don\u2019t inherently know the difference between good and bad behaviour and it\u2019s the responsibility of parents, nannies and other guardians to teach them how to behave well.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">If one child seems particularly upset, angry or aggressive, you need to listen to them. Try to understand the underlying causes behind their behaviour so that you can help to resolve them.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\">It\u2019s natural for children to feel jealous of one another at times, but it\u2019s important that you don\u2019t show any favouritism to encourage those feelings. Discuss their feelings and spend quality time with each child together and individually to show them that they are equal in your eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Do you have any top tips for nipping sibling rivalry in the bud?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Even if they get along 90% of the time, there will always be moments when siblings dont see eye to eye. Personalities can clash and arguments can begin over a variety of things from who has the most attention, playing with certain toys, playing with friends, and even the clothes theyre wearing. The truth of &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-sibling-rivalry\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;How to Deal with Sibling Rivalry&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,5,16,19],"tags":[38,40,47,50,80,89,96,97,111,244,296,299,373,378,447],"class_list":["post-2077","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-au-pairs","category-childcare","category-nannies","category-parents","tag-au-pair","tag-au-pairs","tag-babysitter","tag-babysitting","tag-child-development","tag-childcare","tag-childminder","tag-childminders","tag-communication","tag-jobs-in-childcare","tag-nannies","tag-nanny","tag-parent","tag-parents","tag-sibling-rivalry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2077","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2077"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2077\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2077"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2077"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.nannyjob.co.uk\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2077"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}